Comments on: The rise of the girl crush http://miriamparkinson.com/2006/12/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/ Tue, 08 Jun 2010 04:42:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Faizah http://miriamparkinson.com/2006/12/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/comment-page-1/#comment-153 Faizah Thu, 06 Nov 2008 05:37:24 +0000 http://mparkinson.wordpress.com/2006/12/04/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/#comment-153 Thank you for your message. Friends sent a link to it. Interestingly turned and looked, and others. Subscribe. I would have navedyvatsya Thank you for your message. Friends sent a link to it. Interestingly turned and looked, and others. Subscribe. I would have navedyvatsya

]]> By: Anonymous http://miriamparkinson.com/2006/12/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/comment-page-1/#comment-152 Anonymous Mon, 05 Feb 2007 02:49:00 +0000 http://mparkinson.wordpress.com/2006/12/04/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/#comment-152 I think that most human beings are essentially bisexual, ie that if we are fully open to our emotions and sexuality, it's possible to be attracted to both sexes, even if we define ourselves as predominantly gay or straight. I've had relationships with men only, but have had several intense attractions to women. A friend of mine who also defines herself as primarily straight once had a year long sexual relationship with a women. She told me that women have a special nurturing quality that men are lucky to benefit from in relationships. When she was in the relationship with the woman, she loved being able to experience being nurtured instead of being the primary nurturer, as she had been in relationships with men. She ultimately decided to marry a man and has a child, but she told me with deep honestly that if she hadn't wanted to bring a child into a traditional family setting, she definitely would have chosen a woman as her life partner, that it was a profound and beautiful experience to be with a woman. I think that most human beings are essentially bisexual, ie that if we are fully open to our emotions and sexuality, it’s possible to be attracted to both sexes, even if we define ourselves as predominantly gay or straight. I’ve had relationships with men only, but have had several intense attractions to women. A friend of mine who also defines herself as primarily straight once had a year long sexual relationship with a women. She told me that women have a special nurturing quality that men are lucky to benefit from in relationships. When she was in the relationship with the woman, she loved being able to experience being nurtured instead of being the primary nurturer, as she had been in relationships with men. She ultimately decided to marry a man and has a child, but she told me with deep honestly that if she hadn’t wanted to bring a child into a traditional family setting, she definitely would have chosen a woman as her life partner, that it was a profound and beautiful experience to be with a woman.

]]> By: Anonymous http://miriamparkinson.com/2006/12/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/comment-page-1/#comment-151 Anonymous Tue, 16 Jan 2007 06:36:00 +0000 http://mparkinson.wordpress.com/2006/12/04/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/#comment-151 I agree completely. We humans are complicated. <br />I am a female and had a crush on a female teacher in high school...in an all girls high school, mind you. I was very confused about it at first but realized it was nonsexual and more correctly an "admiration" for, as you said, a sophisticated and educated woman. It turned out that we had a lot in common and became good friends.<br /><br />I am now an undergraduate and our friendship has endured. The crush part is gone, however.<br /><br />This type of thing can certainly be a stage, but it can also be much more. Anything is possible. I agree completely. We humans are complicated.
I am a female and had a crush on a female teacher in high school…in an all girls high school, mind you. I was very confused about it at first but realized it was nonsexual and more correctly an “admiration” for, as you said, a sophisticated and educated woman. It turned out that we had a lot in common and became good friends.

I am now an undergraduate and our friendship has endured. The crush part is gone, however.

This type of thing can certainly be a stage, but it can also be much more. Anything is possible.

]]> By: Deek Deekster http://miriamparkinson.com/2006/12/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/comment-page-1/#comment-150 Deek Deekster Sun, 10 Dec 2006 18:40:00 +0000 http://mparkinson.wordpress.com/2006/12/04/the-rise-of-the-girl-crush/#comment-150 That's very well put. I like that you tackle a difficult area with from your own personal experience - this is what the best blogs do.<br /><br />What you make clear is the real difference between emotional affinity / love, and the sticky stuff. But, the boundary line between a "sexual" crush and a "non-sexual" one is nebulous, moves, and is frequently difficult to define. As is gender - 4% of humanity are neither male nor female <i>physically</i> let alone psychologically.<br /><br />All of which goes to show how stereotypes are there to be avoided. That’s very well put. I like that you tackle a difficult area with from your own personal experience – this is what the best blogs do.

What you make clear is the real difference between emotional affinity / love, and the sticky stuff. But, the boundary line between a “sexual” crush and a “non-sexual” one is nebulous, moves, and is frequently difficult to define. As is gender – 4% of humanity are neither male nor female physically let alone psychologically.

All of which goes to show how stereotypes are there to be avoided.

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